Thursday, May 10, 2007

A few things to be understood..... one: there is no need to hectically change you’re interest from men to women. If it changes on its own, that's good, but there is no need to force that change. A forced change never goes very deep, never works, and there is no need to force. Accept your homosexuality. Don't condemn it; there is no need. It is a perfectly valid way. And if you accept it, one day you can go beyond it; if you reject it, you can never go beyond it, that's the problem. If you reject it, it will haunt you. If you deny it, it will try to overpower you. The denied parts of your being become revengeful. So there is no need to deny it. It's perfectly valid.Mm? There are so many ways to relate sexually, homosexuality is one of the ways; simply accept it. Joyously accept it, not grudgingly, not reluctantly...

[to the group leader] And , many many homosexual people will be coming, so once in a while there should be a homosexual group.Mm, just plan, just think about it. Right? Because if you can give them the feeling that their sexual interest is valid it will be a tremendous importance to them: they will feel rooted, grounded, and from the rootedness change becomes easy, becomes possible.

(To the Sannyasin) And if nothing changes there is no problem in it. Remain homosexual and yet start growing spiritually. It is not that homosexuality is necessarily a barrier for spiritual growth. If you accept it then there is no problem; the problem arises if you reject it. Sometimes I have to say to a few homosexuals, lesbians, to drop it. I say only to drop it when I see that they reject it deep down and are still in it; then it is a hindrance. But if a person simply feels easily homosexual, then there is no problem. And that's my feeling about you. It is a very natural phenomenon to you; but the mind listens to things, and the homosexual minority has been so condemned down the ages. One cannot avoid knowing those things, that everybody condemns it, that everybody is against it, the law is against, the religion.. Naturally, one thinks that when so many people are against it something must be wrong in it! Even if one feels the pull towards it, one goes reluctantly. Don't go reluctantly. That reluctance is the real problem, not homosexuality. And there is no need to change it drastically; simply allow your natural flow. Meditate, grow. It is possible one day that it may change. When you change, all the things change. But remember, you are not to change it; no effort has to be made to change it. So you will be doing other groups....... if this problem arises, simply express your feeling and say that you're not interested in women at all; and not with any guilt, there is no need, no need to feel any guilt. You are not doing any sin, you are not harming anybody. You are not destructive to anybody, you are not violent to anybody. Homosexuality is your enjoyment; it is fun, it is nothing serious. With that acceptance this nightmarish situation will disappear and you will feel very much at ease. And that at- easeness will not be only on the surface, it will become part of your depth.
Believing The Impossible Before Breakfast.
Darshan Diary.
Friday. February 24. 1978.

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