Intimacy is an essential need on the one hand, so everybody longs for it. But you want the other person to be intimate, so that the other person drops his defences, becomes vulnerable, opens all his wounds, drops all his masks and false personality, stands naked as he is. And on the other hand, everybody's afraid of intimacy, and so you are not dropping your defences to the other person you want to be intimate with. This is one of the conflicts between friends, between lovers; nobody wants to drop his defences and nobody wants to come in utter nudity and sincerity, open- and both need intimacy.
OSHO
The Hidden Splendour.